Confused about what to eat? Trying to eat “clean” or gluten-free, processed-free, sugar-free, and organic? It’s time to “dirty up” your diet. Lose the restrictions and bring back joy and freedom.
I’m all for healthy eating–I’m a dietitian after all! And having worked in hospitals and earned a Master’s Degree in Public Health, I’m pretty clear on the fact that healthful eating can help prevent disease. Eating well also helps us thrive and feel great on a day to day basis.
That said, it’s not just about healthy eating. And what is healthy eating anyway? Does it mean eating dairy-free? Avoiding all processed foods? Should you eat Keto? Paleo? Gluten-free? Vegan?
What is healthy eating?
The fact is, healthy eating can take on many forms. For some, it may indeed be a vegan diet and for others, it may need to be gluten-free or dairy-free due to an intolerance or allergy. But if there are any restrictions, the key is being clear on why you have chosen these restrictions–it should not be just to eat healthfully, because all foods n fit into a healthy diet. And if you think you have a food sensitivity or intolerance, be sure to work with a dietitian who specializes in this area before eliminating whole food groups on your own.
Healthy eating can take on many forms. But if there are any restrictions, the key is being clear on why you have chosen them. Click To TweetPersonally, I like to use the term nourishing instead of healthy. To me, healthy or nourishing eating means choosing nutritious foods that taste good and make you feel great on a regular basis.
Nourishing eating also means finding joy in eating. It means eating intuitively, without guilt. It means nourishing your body with foods that make you thrive, not foods that you hope will make you thin or “clean”. (Read more about intuitive eating here.)
And while research is pretty clear that overall our society needs to cut back on sugar, that doesn’t mean we have to eliminate it completely (this would be very unrealistic anyway!). The same goes for processed food. In general, anything extreme is unnecessary and unhealthy.
This means there is room in a healthy diet for ALL foods. There is no need to stress when going out to eat and realizing the only option is fried food. Likewise, if your child has some artificially flavored and colored treats now and then, it’s ok. It’s the overall, day to day habits that matter.
Birthdays are made for splurging! In addition to the fresh berries, the ingredients for this cake that I made for my husband’s birthday include white flour, butter, sugar, and whipped cream. Yum! My kids chose ice cream cakes this year, not homemade. It’s all good!
When healthy eating goes too far
When “healthy eating” becomes an obsession, it’s not healthy. The term “orthorexia” was first coined in 1997 by Steven Bratman, MD. Orthorexia means having an unhealthy obsession with the quality of food eaten (in comparison to anorexia, which focuses on the quantity of food eaten). This focus on healthy or “righteous” eating increases the risk of developing another eating disorder such as anorexia.
The clean eating phenomenon of recent years has likely contributed to the rise in cases of orthorexia. The problem with clean eating is that it implies that some foods are dirty or bad. This in turns leads to unnecessary restrictions, rules, guilt, and obsessions.
Just to be clear: food is food. And all food is good. Sure, some foods have a higher nutritional value than others and some foods are less processed than others, but this doesn’t mean they should be broken into categories that label them “clean” vs. “dirty” or “good” vs. “bad”.
In other words, there really is no such thing as “clean eating”–other than making sure you wash your fruit before you eat it!
What about if you need to lose weight?
First of all, you don’t need to lose weight. More and more evidence is showing that it’s not about your weight. You can find health at any size!
Instead, focus on habits that nourish your body and mind and the rest will fall in place. Ditch the diets. Diets are restrictive by nature and therefore don’t work. In fact, 90% of people who go on weight loss diets end up gaining the weight back within 5 years.
If you are ready to make peace with your body and food, seek the help of a Registered Dietitian who specializes in intuitive eating. Yes, it’s possible to eat without restrictions or counting calories and still enjoy good health! Want to learn more, check out these inspiring intuitive eating dietitians: Christy Harrison, Cara Harbstreet, Alissa Rumsey, Kara Lydon, and Rachel Hartley.
Dirty up your diet: Lose the restrictions and just eat
So I’m here to tell you to lose the restrictions and just eat. Of course, if you have a food allergy or medical condition that requires you to eat a certain way, that is an exception. But for most of us, healthy eating can be as simple as choosing nutrient-rich foods most of the time. Trust your own intuition and eat what you want when you want. Eat fresh baguette. Add a slice of cheese if it makes you happy.
Trust your own intuition and eat what you want when you want. Click To TweetHappy? Yes, happy! It’s part of the health equation, right? Eating should provide pleasure. Food is meant to nourish both the body and soul. So eat it with joy. Share it with friends and family. Savor. Eat mindfully. Eat intuitively.
Of course, realize, that you won’t always feel joy or pleasure when eating. Sometimes you may eat mindlessly while scrolling on your phone. Other times you may eat so quickly you overeat. And other times you may binge on ice cream because you are sad. It’s all ok. That is life. As we say in yoga, don’t judge, just recognize it and move on. Most likely there will be a new meal again soon, a new chance to be mindful and kind to yourself. Eventually, you will find rhythm and balance to most of your eating habits.
Additional suggestions:
If you are someone who is easily influenced by Instagram accounts touting “clean” eating or restrictive diets, go ahead and unfollow them. Instead, surround yourself with nourishing photos and messages that inspire you but are also realistic. Remember there is no one right way to eat and often restrictions do more harm than good.
Be wary of nutrition advice from anyone who is not a trained nutrition professional. Realize that anyone can call themselves a nutritionist and that these days anyone can get a nutrition degree online. Instead, seek out Registered Dietitian Nutritionists with a healthy, positive approach to food.
Also, check out these great books:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield
Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon
Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison
I’m totally with you! We should all learn to cook and enjoy our food more, with the people we love the most!
Yes! Learning to cook and being able to enjoy food with those we love is a huge part of the healthy eating equation. Sometimes we get so consumed by other details surrounding food and eating that we lose sight of the big picture.